The “marry a virgin” movement in evangelical circles is misguided
Posted by Chance on November 4, 2013
When I was in junior high and high school and listening to church talks about purity, a major theme was the idea that you should try to marry someone who saved himself or herself for you. Sounds like a great idea. After all, aren’t you and Jesus worth waiting for?
But here’s the problem. People who didn’t wait till marriage, what are they supposed to do? What does this mean for people who aren’t virgins? Are they supposed to marry the backsliden Christians, for whom purity isn’t important? The whole idea of the “marry a virgin” movement is that, if you made mistakes in the area of sexuality, you aren’t worth it.
I also feel that this idea gets across the message that the past means everything. This whole idea is that, once someone sins in this area, they have reached a point of no return. I don’t believe that’s the case.
Most importantly, I feel that such a message tries to limit God’s plan for our lives. Who says that God doesn’t have a partner for someone who has sinned in this area? In the Bible, we seem to see an opposite idea. We see one of the Israelites marry the former prostitute Rahab. We see the story of Hosea, who marries an unfaithful woman, yet takes her back, and this story is an illustration of how God takes us back when we are unfaithful to him.
The Bible is full of stories of redemption and second chances. Yes, we can make choices that have life-long consequences, but the “marry a virgin” idea seems to go against the Biblical theme of redemption and second chances.